Notice

I take notice when someone wishes to be of like kind but does not have an ability to change.

I notice if they do not demonstrate an ability or willingness to change and grow but they wish to find themselves close.

I notice if a feeling of inferiority couples or follows.

If you find yourself lesser than and wish to be like them, but do not have intention to change or grow, the obvious solution then is to simply lessen them. Whether you "mean" to or not.

*To want to be close to someone is to want to be like them in one sense or another. Closeness implies likeness, if not in innate properties, in properties describing which spaces you occupy.